Many moons ago I posted this on my blog. I post it again here to remind myself that well... I suck. I tell myself every day not to let myself be controlled by things out of my control and better yet not to create or invite conflict. But I do it all the time.
Here is what I posted a long time ago:
Here is a new word for everyone to learn and put into practice...
A conflict where the parties are inviting the very things they're fighting against.
See the word conflict in its essence is "passive", it is something that happens to us. Conflict for example, may be in result of a simple misunderstanding.
On the other hand,
The conflicts that I have noticed in my life have overwhelmingly not been conflict at all, and instead I have invited the very thing that I find myself frustrated with, fighting against, or arguing at.
Step back from your life and see what you find of the conflicts in your life. Are they conflicts or really collusion?
Doesn't the solution for conflict totally change when we look at it in this light?