A conflict where the parties are inviting the very things they're fighting against.
See the word conflict in its essence is "passive", it is something that happens to us. Conflict for example, may be in result of a simple misunderstanding.
On the other hand,
The conflicts that I have noticed in my life have overwhelmingly not been conflict at all, and instead I have invited the very thing that I find myself frustrated with, fighting against, or arguing at.
Step back from your life and see what you find of the conflicts in your life. Are they conflicts or really collusion?
Doesn't the solution for conflict totally change when we look at it in this light?